When a woman is depicted in a sexualized way, with no depth beyond her appearance in order to sell beer, cars or sandwiches, we call it advertising. We see it everywhere in public space and in media, and hardly anyone ever objects.
When overtly sexual or nude photos and videos of women are posted online or nude photos are printed in magazines, we call it porn. We don’t see it everywhere in the public space, but we’re aware of its ubiquity, and as a culture we look the other way. We say, “Boys will be boys.” Looking at porn is as all-American as sneaking a look at your father’s Playboy. Yet being a porn star is considered incredibly shameful for a young woman.
It’s OK to look at porn. It’s OK to consume images of women’s bodies. It’s not OK to offer up your body to be seen.